Love means having to say you’re sorry…
WARNING: Adult language in this post
I know, I know… That’s not what what’s-her-face says in Love Story. Ali MacGraw. The correct quotation is “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Which I think is a shitty quotation. What kind of douche are you if you don’t apologize for the shit you do? The bad stuff. The unsupportive and biased things you do because you’re blind to your own perspective and maybe don’t have all the information, kind of things… What? Are your loved ones just supposed to divine that you feel remorse?
If you say mean-spirited things… apologize! If you hurt someone’s feelings… apologize! If you dissed a friend’s new partner thinking you know all the facts, but the truth is you don’t… you need to… APOLOGIZE. And not just if you feel like shit afterwards.
Basically when you realize you’re wrong… about ANYTHING – you need to fucking regroup and own up to it. I’m not saying that you should just lie down and be someone’s doormat when you know, deep down in your heart of hearts, that you’re right, but if something suddenly becomes clear to you and you know you fucked up? You’ve got to own that. You need to grow a pair and take ownership of your misguidance. ‘Cause hurt feelings can create a chasm between you and your loved ones, which, if neither one of you moves beyond, will grow wider and wider until you can’t even make out who’s on the other side of the divide. Life’s too short to write friendships off. Trust me. Apologize.
